More About Children Of Alcoholics - Alcohol Videos
Often, Children Raised In Alcoholic Families Learn The "Four Ds" Early On:
Don’t talk about what is really going on
Don’t trust anyone but yourself
Don’t feel or have needs because there is no one available to validate or respond to you
Deny there is a problem
Because they don’t know what "normal" is, they may constantly seek approval or affirmation.
What might be considered overachieving by others might seem routine to children of alcoholics who learned to try to be perfect so they wouldn’t disrupt things or incur the wrath of the alcoholic.
Children in such a system may also have trouble identifying or expressing their feelings. In their homes it may not have been okay to cry or be angry.
Attitudes and emotions crucial to a child like I’m sorry," or even "I love you," might have been absent or not authentic, delivered without an emotional foundation or behaviors consistent with such statements.
There is a saying in 12 Step help groups that "We’re only as sick as our secrets," but breaking the pattern of secrecy or the no-talk rules that may have existed in a family can be difficult.
It’s important to understand that acknowledging the reality of an alcoholic family is not about blame. It’s about understanding the disease of alcoholism and the dire effects it can have on a family, then taking responsibility for your own behavior once you’ve gained the tools with which to live a healthy and balanced life.
12 Step Programs - Alcohol Videos
The 12 Steps
offer a set of principles by which we can live that are in line with every belief system.
A Twelve Step group also provides a safe place where people can check things out to see if their responses, reactions and feelings are appropriate. In other words, it’s a great place to practice "being normal," ask for help, and receive support and validation.
People on a journey of healing typically go through a grief process, encountering emotions like denial, anger and fear along the way. There is often grief surrounding the loss of family and the loss of a happy childhood.
The Goal Is:
To learn about addiction
Develop new coping mechanisms
Let go of resentment or judgment
And ultimately move to a place of compassion and kindness towards others.
Approach recovery "slowly and quietly," and concentrate on yourself. This is your own personal journey and it may be threatening to family members who still view alcoholism as a moral failing or who feel you are being disloyal by telling family secrets.
You can’t take others along, but you can demonstrate positive changes. We can’t rewrite history, but we can take steps today to make sure that history doesn’t repeat itself.
Filled With Break-Through Recovery Insight (Length: 46:36)
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Most families play certain roles during the addiction and recovery process. In "Family Roles In Addiction" you'll discover if YOU or your FAMILY fits into any of these roles...
The Addict: The person with the addiction is at the center.
The Caretaker: This person is the enabler.
The Hero: This is the person who feels they have to make all family members "look good" in the eyes of others.
The Mascot: The Mascot will often try to inject humor into the situation.
The Lost Child: This is the silent person who always seems to be in the way or left out.
The Scapegoat: This person often acts out in front of others.
In "Family Roles In Addiction" you will begin to overcome issues, and what could be classified as the addiction to the role.
While conquering the substance is important to the person with the addiction, a point to remember is the substance(s) is not the key to family recovery, removing the underlying roles are.
Who should get this Video/DVD?
ANYONE who is living with an addicted person. 12-Step Sponsors, Recovery Support Specialist, Recovery Group Leaders, Addiction Counselors and Outreach Ministries.
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